Is your relationship with your body a dictatorship, democracy, authoritarianism, totalitarianism, pluralism, something in-between or completely different?
I have been struggling with the concept of controling our physical body, the repercussions this concept has had on many Americans, and possibly people around the world. I am noticing most often the extreme dictatorship where it doesn’t matter if the body’s protest is legitimate or not. If it does not fit in with the expectations for the day, it gets ignored. I truly believe that this ignorance of our body’s needs is one of the root causes of pain and diseases we see today. When we ignore discomfort, which turns into pain, and then manifests as dis-ease, we are killing our physical body much faster than if we had a working relationship with it.
I feel the most important thing for each of us to do is to get to know ourselves. To know when the body is just being lazy, and when it truly has an unmet need. I believe we are worth the effort it takes to create a working relationship with our body, and that it is vital for our well being.
I experienced having a poor relationship with my body when I was a child, and suffered the consequences over and over again because I didn’t seem to know any better. The truth is that I just didn’t listen and respond to my body’s needs efficiently. For me, it is not hard to hear/notice my body’s needs. The challenge has been to slow down and take the time to make the adjustments necessary to make life go more smoothly.
The biggest lesson has been to allow myself to be a priority. I have spent my lifetime putting others needs before mine until I am completely depleted, and then I have to retreat into my shell and practically go comatose for as long as I possibly can (but very rarely as long as really needed after fully depleting my energy), until someone else has a need that I have obligated myself to take care of. Does this sound familiar?
A result of my realization about my relationship with my body is the downsizing of our animal population. I have spent my lifetime taking in strays, other people’s pets, and animals I just wanted to get to know. I’m talking hundreds of cats and dogs, mice (fresh raw food for the cats – didn’t go over well with the kids:(), rabbits, finches, budgies, parrots, iguana’s, dragons, ferrets, doves, chickens, ducks, geese, turkeys, goldfish, freshwater fish, a potbelly pig, miniature goat, dairy cow, meat steer, a lamb, and more. You get the idea. All of these animals were taken care of many, many times, before my own needs were met. At times, I even took care of our animal’s needs before our children’s needs because I had a warped sense from my childhood that the kids would be fine, and didn’t need me as much as the animals did. A result of these experiences with animals is, I know how to take care of many different types of creatures including myself.
I am taking control of my life by developing a working relationship with my body. You are welcome to join me on this journey. I will share different insights and techniques that I find helpful and where to find resources at minimal or no expense. In this day and age we have amazing resources at our fingertips. Finding what is helpful can be tricky and I will do my best to help with that.
Peace and Love to All,