More on “Why Meditate?”

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Today while meditating I received a news flash. I needed support. This came to me while I was trying to sit, supported well enough that as I went deeper into meditation, I would not fall over because of gravity. I would feel myself fall and jerk myself into awareness of my body in jeopardy.  That action alone can cause muscles cramps and pull ligaments. Then my mind wandered into ‘what if’ land. What if I need support whenever I need to do something physical, which is a lot!  I was envisioning someone always by my side, ready to catch me if I fall. But who would be able to do that? The next thing I’m thinking is “That sounds awful.” So I let it go. (Not an easy thing for me to do, let me tell you.)

 

Anyway, I had this overwhelming urge to write down the message.  As I was writing it down in my journal, I was able to see that what my body needs right now is ligament support.  My ligaments are shot, and that is why I am having so much trouble keeping my body together.  I looked up “weak ligaments support” and found a wiki page: Ligamentous laxity.  This explains exactly what I have been dealing with since I was a teen. It also explains why it takes months for the pain of an injury to subside(injuries sustained by pushing my body beyond its known limits. My body tells me when it needs to stop, but I say “How about 1 more time?”.

Ligaments take a really long time to heal. Now I will research, both on and offline, to find what natural substances support ligament elasticity. I’ll let you know how it goes.

 

So how’s that for using meditation to connect with your body, and learn what it needs?

namaste

Accomplishment Junky…

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Someone who is addicted to accomplishing things in a way that compromises their well-being is an Accomplishment Junky. I made this discovery Saturday evening when I noticed I was having a real hard time unwinding after an amazing day of achievement.

A few days earlier I was having a hard time keeping my mind and body together and coherent.  They were contemplating mutiny, and i was at a loss of what to do until my beloved Andrew suggested I take the next day, Friday, as a meditation day.  He would fill in handling my tasks, as needed, and I was free to take care of myself.

Friday was a beautiful day, and I spent it doing Jin Shin Jyutsu, organizing our crystal/stone collection, going outside with the dogs, being with our small flock of birds, meditating, collecting thoughts, not washing dishes, and thoroughly enjoying myself.

The results were wonderful! I felt more together physically and mentally than I had in awhile. Saturday was another beautiful day, and our house needed serious tlc. I opened up the windows and doors and took the dog beds and throw rugs outside for fresh air. I did my best to keep myself conscious of my body and moving with it. Even so, I found it hard to stop once I started.  I mixed chores up so I wasn’t doing all of one thing (like sweeping the entire house, which kills me physically).  Still, I did 2 1/2 loads of dog and house laundry, swept our bathroom, bedroom and living room, flea sprayed dog bedding outside, and had a failed attempt at vacuuming the front door rugs, which resulted in a disgusting cloud of dust floating through the house – so more doors were opened.

Still, I took some time to sit and enjoy meals, as well as some web browsing and contemplation time. By evening, after Andrew had come home from hiking, I noticed that my mouth was running away!  When I get excited about something it can be hard to shut myself up.  I realized that I was high from all my accomplishments that day.  I did much more than I have been able to do in awhile and my body was doing okay with it, so far, but I knew that I had to be very careful the next couple of days to keep from relapsing.  Then this came to me:  Stop and Listen.

Stop and Listen. This is what I believe our bodies need from us the most.  Our body/mind interaction is childlike.  It needs us to take the time to STOP multitasking and really LISTEN to its needs. And I mean really LISTEN.  Not just take note and continue as usual.  To address our body’s needs in efficient ways we must stop and listen to subtle cues from our body.  Like resting when you feel tired even though the task at hand is not completely done. No task is worth crippling yourself! And I’m talking about daily tasks that can wear us out when our bodies are recovering from injuries. Take time to completely stop and listen to your body.  It is amazing what may come to you.

What is Your Relationship with Your Body?

Is your relationship with your body a dictatorship, democracy, authoritarianism, totalitarianism, pluralism, something in-between or completely different?

I have been struggling with the concept of controling our physical body, the repercussions this concept has had on many Americans, and possibly people around the world.  I am noticing most often the extreme dictatorship where it doesn’t matter if the body’s protest is legitimate or not.  If it does not fit in with the expectations for the day, it gets ignored.  I truly believe that this ignorance of our body’s needs is one of the root causes of pain and diseases we see today.  When we ignore discomfort, which turns into pain, and then manifests as dis-ease, we are killing our physical body much faster than if we had a working relationship with it.

I feel the most important thing for each of us to do is to get to know ourselves.  To know when the body is just being lazy, and when it truly has an unmet need.  I believe we are worth the effort it takes to create a working relationship with our body, and that it is vital for our well being.

I experienced having a poor relationship with my body when I was a child, and suffered the consequences over and over again because I didn’t seem to know any better.  The truth is that I just didn’t listen and respond to my body’s needs efficiently.  For me, it is not hard to hear/notice my body’s needs. The challenge has been to slow down and take the time to make the adjustments  necessary to make life go more smoothly.

The biggest lesson has been to allow myself to be a priority.  I have spent my lifetime putting others needs before mine until I am completely depleted, and then I have to retreat into my shell and practically go comatose for as long as I possibly can (but very rarely as long as really needed after fully depleting my energy), until someone else has a need that I have obligated myself to take care of.  Does this sound familiar?

A result of my realization about my relationship with my body is the downsizing of our animal population. I have spent my lifetime taking in strays, other people’s pets, and animals I just wanted to get to know.   I’m talking hundreds of cats and dogs, mice (fresh raw food for the cats – didn’t go over well with the kids:(), rabbits, finches, budgies, parrots, iguana’s, dragons, ferrets, doves, chickens, ducks, geese, turkeys, goldfish, freshwater fish, a potbelly pig, miniature goat, dairy cow, meat steer, a lamb, and more.  You get the idea.  All of these animals were taken care of many, many times, before my own needs were met.  At times, I even took care of our animal’s needs before our children’s needs because I had a warped sense from my  childhood that the kids would be fine, and didn’t need me as much as the animals did.  A result of these experiences with animals is,  I know how to take care of many different types of creatures including myself.

I am taking control of my life by developing a working relationship with my body. You are welcome to join me on this journey.  I will share different insights and techniques that I find helpful and where to find resources at minimal or no expense.  In this day and age we have amazing resources at our fingertips.  Finding what is helpful can be tricky and I will do my best to help with that.

Peace and Love to All,

Dove