1) Your REAL friends will return your phone calls. You might cut certain people a little slack with this, especially seniors, but if someone regularly takes the initiative to get back to you, say, within a week or less, you can be sure they’re a real friend.
2) Your REAL friends will trust you. They’ll trust your intentions to be honorable. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes things turn out differently then planned. Shit happens. If someone trusts you in spite of inaccuracies or human error you can be sure they’re a real friend. This only works if your intentions ARE honorable.
3) Your REAL friends are supportive. They say ” great idea! ” They offer constructive criticism that improve your ideas, or at least nurture your ideas, instead of dismantling or rejecting them. Real friends are supportive because you share a passion!
4) Your REAL friends are compassionate when you are vulnerable. First, this one requires an understanding of compassion, and much harder, a willingness to be vulnerable in a friendship. Your real friends will nurture a willingness to be vulnerable using compassion to create safety in the friendship. Instead of berating you because you forgot your own, your real friends will share their water with you and appreciate your gratitude. They will feel glad they have enough for both of you.
It’s getting harder and harder to know what is real anymore. Hopefully this helps. May all beings experience real friendship. Real compassion. May all beings be peaceful.